Friday, September 4, 2015

Giving Up On Your Dreams Is Not An Option by Wayne Burke

It can be quite disheartening when you think about all the hours you spend trying to achieve success, and the lack of results to show for it. It is at this point that many give up on their dream of taking charge of their destiny.

Here are 3 steps to take when you feel like giving up:

1. Use Your Patience

We currently live in an "instant" society. If it takes too long, there is usually a faster alternative...and thus we get spoiled.

When you see a great singer, actress, business person, etc...what's usually hidden from view is what they had to go through to get to that point...all the hard work, failures, sleepless nights, etc. Try to reflect on this when you feel like success is taking too long. If it's worth doing, then it shouldn't matter how long it takes...keep that dream alive.

2. Adjust Your Focus

What are you focusing on...success or failure...problems or solutions...what others think or what you need to do? As a popular saying goes, "your focus will determine your reality."

From now on, start focusing on what you want instead of what you fear. Fill your mind with positive messages by reading books, going to seminars, listening to motivational speakers while you drive, etc. Also, focus on learning as much as you can about your area of business, especially from those who have already achieved success. Prove to yourself the truth in the statement...knowledge cures fear.

3. Realize That You Are Not Unique

It's okay to feel discouraged at times...accept it as a natural part of going after your the saying goes with the territory. I challenge you to have conversations with a few successful people, and you will realize that they, at some point on their journey felt discouraged and thought about giving up.

What kept them going...a burning insatiable hunger...a powerful why...a situation where they had no other choice but to succeed. A great way to strengthen your "I REFUSE TO QUIT" muscle is to get in the habit of reading autobiographies/biographies of others who have surmounted great obstacles in the pursuit of their dreams.

Giving up is easy! However, do you want to look back a year from now with regret...wishing that you had given your dream all that you've got within you...patience, courage, determination, focus, belief, faith...and the list goes on and on. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step"...take the 3 steps I have provided to help you on your journey to being UNSTOPPABLE!

Tuesday, September 1, 2015

The History Of The Law Of Attraction by Norman McCulloch

While the Law of Attraction is getting quite a bit of publicity these days, the concept has been around for centuries and has been known (and used successfully) by great minds throughout history. According to books like The Secret, there’s evidence that the law of attraction was used by Beethoven, Einstein and even Jesus, but you’ve also used it in your own life whether you’re aware of it or not! This is because the Law of Attraction works whether or not you’re aware of it. The main reason for the current focus on it is that if you’re aware that you're using the Law of Attraction, you can control what you attract into your life.

How The Law of Attraction Works

Basically, the Law of Attraction works like this: you create your own reality. What you focus on, what you emote about, is what you draw into your life. What you believe will happen in your life is what does happen. This isn’t as simple as it seems, however, or everyone would have the lives that they want naturally. For example, people who are in debt and continually tell themselves, “I need more money,” don’t find more money, they continue to “need more money” because that is the reality that they create.

Why It Works

Many people wonder why this works, and there are more than one explanation. The two main schools of thoughts go along these lines:

1. The Spiritual Explanation

Many people believe that the Law of Attraction works by aligning God or the Universe with our wishes. We are all made of energy, and our energy operates at different frequencies. We can change our frequency of energy with positive thoughts, especially gratitude for what we already have. By using grateful, positive thoughts and feelings and by focusing on our dreams (rather than our frustrations), we can change the frequency of our energy, and the law of attraction brings positive things (things of that frequency) into our lives. What we attract depends on where and how we focus our attention, but we must believe that it’s already ours, or soon will be.

2. The Traditionally Scientific Explanation

If you’re one who needs things to be a little more easy to prove, there is also a different explanation for how the law of attraction works. By focusing on attaining a new reality, and by believing it is possible, we tend to take more risks, notice more opportunities, and open ourselves up to new possibilities. Conversely, when we don’t believe that something is in the realm of possibilities for us, we tend to let opportunities pass by unnoticed. When we believe we don’t deserve good things, we behave in ways that sabotage our chances at happiness. By changing our self-talk and feelings about life, we reverse the negative patterns in our lives and create more positive, productive and healthy ones. One good thing leads to another, and the direction of a life can shift from a downward spiral to an upward ascent.

Proof That The Law of Attraction Works

Whatever the underlying reason, reams of anecdotal evidence confirm that the law of attraction works. And, for those science-minded folks out there, research does seem to support the positive effects of the Law of Attraction as well. For example, research on optimism shows that optimists enjoy better health, greater happiness, and more success in life (the advantage that optimists share is that they focus their thoughts on their successes and mentally minimize their failures). One of the foundations of therapy is that changing your self-talk can change your life in a positive direction. And millions of people have found success with positive affirmations.

Law of Attraction Caveats

One problem I have with the book The Secret, and with some people's interpretation of the Law of Attraction, is that it's singularly the belief we hold that good things will come to us that will bring us all that we desire, without any sort of action behind that belief. Studies on optimists show that it is the optimistic viewpoint that drives the proactive behaviors that in turn bring optimists such great results in their lives. Optimists don't receive their benefits from their attitudes alone—it's the behavior the attitudes inspire that creates real change.

More importantly, critics of The Secret and other books about the Law of Attraction point out the very real concern that people may start to blame themselves for negative events that are outside their control, such as accidents and injuries, layoffs due to the financial crisis, or major illnesses. My belief is that we can't always control our circumstances, but we can control our responses to them. In this vein, the Law of Attraction can provide the optimism and proactive attitude that's associated with resilience in difficult situations, but must not be used as a tool of self-blame. Our responses to the challenges we face can make us stronger in the end, and the Law of Attraction can be used for that end, but should not be applied negatively, or it can be more destructive than helpful.

To your success,
Norman McCulloch
The Guy With A Cause