If you are a business owner. What type? Most people will answer that they are a “lawn mowing” or “novelty shop” owner. Only a few very successful people seem to realize that they are in the business of marketing and say “I am in business to market lawn mowing services” or “I am in the business of marketing novelty items”.
Think about the local video store. How many have you seen close down. How much marketing did you see from those who have closed down? I would hazard a guess that you didn’t see much and if you did, it never tried to sell you the experience of watching a new release movie or old classic from the comfort of your own home. Typically store owners get so caught up with the day to day running they forget the need to market their products or services to continue to bring in new customers or clients and just continue to market their store name.
Let me try and provide anther example. You have a novelty shop with a physical storefront location and have named it “Joan’s Store”. That is not your business. In fact, the store itself is usually an extra expense of running a business. If you are like many business owners, you put up a sign out the front with your store name and run an ad in the local paper telling people your store name and location. How will anyone know that your shop (Joan’s Store) sells novelty items? How differently would your business grow if instead of advertising just your store name, you advertise your novelty items and their benefits? Or if your marketing efforts sell the experience (or sizzle) of getting many laughs?
Your real business is the marketing of the novelty items…you just use the store front as a way to sell your novelty items. Instead of a store you could also use mail order, a phone order line, a website, or stores owned by others to sell your products and services. Your real business job is to drive potential customers (or traffic) into your store to buy your novelty products. There are hundreds of ways to drive traffic to your store and its products; and that is the art of marketing.
Marketing can include: advertising, direct mail campaigns, classified ads, TV infomercials, e-mail courses, e-mail mailing lists, banners, sponsorship, direct mail, postcards, events and contests, drawings, JV’s, open houses, press releases, logo branding, etc. Marketing is anything which brands your product or services, brings them to the attention of potential customers and drives them to do business with you.
Wednesday, November 7, 2007
One Trait Of Successful Business Owners
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Sunday, November 4, 2007
How To Set Your Mind To Attract Wealth
1. Show gratitude for any money which enters your life.
In order to attract money into your life, you must show gratitude for the money which is already in your life. Instead of bemoaning how little money you have, bask in gratitude at the many ways in which you are rich already. For example, if you earn over $2,182 per year you have more wealth than 85% of the people on earth. And if you earn more than $25,400 a year you are in the top 10% of wealthy people on this planet. When you focus on what you have rather than what you want, you realize that you ARE already rich. Give thanks often for all the riches in your life.
How to use this principle today:
The next time money enters your life, from any source whatsoever, instead of barely noticing what has happened and mentally beginning to spend it, use a few moments of time to give thanks to the universe for bringing this money into your life. Every time you receive a paycheck, every time someone gives you money for any reason, every time you find money, or get a great deal, or save money in some way, stop and appreciate the fact that money is flowing into your life. Doing this every time money comes to you will attract more and more money into your life.
2. Act as if you are rich.
This is the fundamental truth of all mind power work, that you must act as if what you want is already yours. So act as if you already have the money you wish to have. Ask yourself, if I was already rich, what would I do, how would I act, how would I feel, and then do, act, and feel in those ways.
Of course, this doesn't mean that you quit your job and move to the South Pacific like you would if you suddenly won the lottery, but you start small and with each success you build your way to greater and greater wealth. Eat a little bit better, dress a little bit nicer, go on slightly higher-end vacations, take a cab instead of the bus now and then, take that course you think you can’t afford, or do anything at all that you wish to do but believe you can’t because of a lack of money.
And when you do these things, bask in joy at your inner state of wealth, and know that this state will be reflected in your outer world. You’ll be amazed at how life provides for the things which bring you joy.
How to use this principle today:
The next time you are about to buy something, anything at all, purchase an item that is of slightly higher quality and price than you would usually buy. Even if something only costs a few dollars more than what is usual for you to spend, buy that item and thank the universe for providing for your new expanding lifestyle.
Even though it is a tiny step, you are beginning to teach your mind that you are expanding your limitations, and as you practice this you will begin to purchase more of the things you want in your life and the money will come to you to pay for them.
3. Find a penny, pick it up.
In order to attract wealth into your life, your subsconscious mind must be open to the idea of wealth flowing to you. You must be open and receptive to money coming to you from any source whatsoever. This includes the pennies laying on the street. If you pass a penny on the sidewalk, and your usual reaction is simply to ignore it because stooping down to pick up a penny is not worth the effort, you are telling your subconscious mind that you are not willing to put out effort for money. The amount of money makes no difference whatsoever. The subconscious mind doesn't distinguish between one penny and one million dollars. All it knows is how you feel.
Of course this manifests in many other ways as well. Whenever you do not accept a gift graciously, whenever you do not charge someone for work that you have done for them, or charge them way less than you should because you feel guilty, and whenever you sell a product for less than it is worth because you do not want to charge too much, you are generating the same emotions. So begin to be open to money, in whatever form, and begin to accept it's flow into your life, even if it's only a penny on the street.
How to use this principle today:
Simply go for a walk today and look for money. You are sure to find at least a penny somewhere. Pick it up and thank the universe for bringing money into your life. Let your subconscious mind know that you are open and willing to accept money from any source.
As well, apply this principle in your working life. If you have been undercharging for your services, raise your prices. If you are not earning what you feel you should, ask for a raise. And whenever anyone gives you anything, especially money, accept it graciously and give thanks.
4. Be open to money-making opportunities.
One thing that all self-made millionaires agree on is that there are opportunities everywhere, if we are just open to seeing them. You can prove this for yourself by looking at your own life. There are probably many times in your past which you think back to and wonder what might have happened if you had taken an opportunity at just the right time. Whether it’s obvious things like career opportunities you let slip by, investment opportunities you didn’t belive in, or less obvious opportunities like an idea you once had that is now making someone else rich, or an industry you could have joined before it became saturated.
If you are like most people, when you think of your past opportunities, you believe that you once had a chance but that opportunity is now gone. The difference between rich and poor people is that rich people realize that new opportunities are always all around us, all the time. You simply need to keep a look out for the opportunities, keep and open mind, and be prepared to take advantage when the opportunity arrives.
I’m sure you’ve heard the old adage that luck occurs when opportunity meets preparation. Well, it couldn’t be more true. If you expect to find money-making opportunities in your life, and you prepare to take advantage of them when they come, you will be blessed with more incredible luck than you have ever experienced.
How to use this principle today:
Get out a little notebook and write down all the money-making ideas you can think of. It doesn’t matter how stupid or outrageous the idea might seem, write it down anyway.
This does two things. First, you realize that there are plenty of money-making opportunities around you right now, as there always have been and always will be. Secondly, this exercise will stimulate your mind to see money-making opportunities where it might have ignored them in the past, and will help you practice to see opportunities in the future.
If you keep adding ideas to your notebook consistently, one day you will see an incredibly opportunity on your list which is perfect for you. Then go for it!
5. Do something that makes you feel good.
This has got to be the easiest money-making advice I could ever give. Do something that makes you feel good. When you feel good, your energy rises, and when your energy rises, it attracts more of the things into your life which make you feel good.
Could life be any easier? Not really, but we are so caught up in the backwards thinking of everyone around us that we miss the obvious flow of energy. All you really need to attract more of the good things in your life, including more money, is to generate positive energy into the world. The states of happiness and joy literally rearrange the atoms of your world to bring you more happiness and joy. Of course, the reverse is true as well. So avoid fear, anger, depression, and spend your time feeling good about yourself and your life.
If this is difficult for you, just practice. Begin with some small thing which brings you happiness. It could be as simple as watching a sunset, renting your favorite movie of all time, taking someone you love out for dessert, or anything at all.
The secret is to do these things whole-heartedly, with all your attention focussed on the happiness vibrating from your soul out into the world. This simple act will bring you rich rewards.
How to use this principle today:
Don’t just read this article and think "that sounds good" and then go back to your life. Pick something to do which will bring you happiness and do it today. It doesn’t matter what it is or how small it seems. In fact, you don’t have to do anything at all. All that is important is feeling the positive emotions of happiness and joy emanating from your soul.
One simple way to generate positive emotion is to feel gratitude for something in your life. Just pick something in your life for which you are very grateful, and vibrate your gratitude towards it.
It's Never Too Late If You Start Now
That should get you started. Five extremely simple actions you can take to begin to expand the prosperity you experience in your life. But don’t stop there. Never let fear or doubt enter your mind. There is nothing you need in order to succeed except the power of your own mind.
If you worry that you are not smart enough, not connected enough, not talented enough, not young enough or not old enough, you are simply creating limiting beliefs which will manifest in the outside world. All you really need to know is that the outside world is a reflection of the state of your inner mind. Know that you can make every day from this day forward a little more joyful and a little more abundant and then watch your life begin to change.
It’s an easy and gentle process, much like letting a plant grow. One day you will suddenly realize that all of your good thoughts have grown into the beautiful fruits of a happy and successful life.
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Thursday, November 1, 2007
The Impression Of Increase
In so far as your business consists in dealing with other people—whether directly, by telephone, or by letter—the key thought of all your efforts must be to convey to their mind the impression of increase.
Increase is what all men and all women are seeking. It is the urge of the formless intelligence within them to find fuller expression.
The desire for increase is inherent in all nature. It is the fundamental impulse of the universe. All human activities are based on the desire for increase. People are seeking more food, more clothes, better shelter, more luxury, more beauty, more knowledge, more pleasure—more life. Every living thing is under that necessity for continuous advancement. Where increase of life ceases, dissolution and death set in at once.
People instinctively know this, and hence they are forever seeking more. This law of perpetual increase is set forth by Jesus in the parable of the talents. Only those who gain more retain any. "From him who hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath."
The normal desire for increased wealth is not an evil or a reprehensible thing. It is simply the desire for a more abundant life. And, because it is the deepest instinct of their natures, all men and women are attracted to an individual who can give them more of the means of life.
Wallace D. Wattles
From The Science of Getting Rich
Monday, October 29, 2007
Fire walking: fact or fiction?
* Layers of ash which form as the coals burn also insulate fire walkers' feet from the heat of the glowing embers, which can reach temperatures of over 540 degrees Celsius (1,000 degrees Fahrenheit) - Oct 29 - Hundreds of Hindu devotees walked across a ceremonial pit of hot coals in the early hours of Monday at the start of the annual Theemithi fire walking festival in Singapore. Here are some facts about the festival and how people can perform the rite without serious bodily harm.
* Heat transfer from hot coal to foot takes place via conduction, scientists say. Vibrating energy molecules from coarse charcoal coals collide with the molecules on the fire walkers feet, transferring energy to them.
* Fire walking is thought possible because coals formed from burnt wood have a relatively low thermal capacity, making the heat transfer slow compared to heat conduction via metals, for example.
* The soles of the fire walker's feet are also only in contact with the coals for a short period of time. Walking briskly is recommended as the best approach, as each step takes half a second or less. Running, the fastest way across, is, however, seen as undignified.
* Layers of ash which form as the coals burn also insulate fire walkers' feet from the heat of the glowing embers, which can reach temperatures of over 540 degrees Celsius (1,000 degrees Fahrenheit). This is why fire walking is normally done at night, so the bed of coals glow an impressively hot-looking red. In daylight, they look more like a grey bed of ashes.
* Hindu fire walkers ceremonially wash their feet in a bath of goat or cow milk after streaking across the firepit to clean off any embers that may have stuck to them. They also put water spiced with orange-coloured tumeric on their feet afterwards as the spice acts as an antiseptic.
* Some dispute scientific explanations of ritual fire walking, saying that some people do indeed get burned, and that ancient and modern fire walkers' abilities to escape the coals unscathed is an inexplicable example of mind over matter.
Source: Reuters
Saturday, October 13, 2007
An Indispensible Tool by James Ray
Practical Spirituality is designed to teach you how to use your spiritual capacity (your infinite self) to create real, hard-hitting results. Thousands have discovered this gem...In fact, many of James' students and readers tell him it's their favorite go-to resource when facing their most important life decisions...a piece they simply can't live without.
In Practical Spirituality, James shares with you 29 crucial principles for realizing your infinite self and the power you possess...to experience a superior spiritual connection while producing dramatically greater results in all areas of your life. Once you understand these fundamental principles, you'll be literally unstoppable.
Practical Spirituality combines the potent ingredients of material goals and mysticism and explains how to utilize both to get the most out of life.
Here's just a taste of what's in store for you in this amazing book:
* Actionable, clear principles to achieve tangible success without sacrificing spirituality and vice versa...
* Straight talk to put you on the true path of power so you can avoid the mistakes most people make...
* Makes applying ancient wisdom and the latest discoveries about how our world works in the realm of physics and beyond something you can do today...
And that's just the start of it. By the way, it's not just a one-time read, it's true reference material you'll turn to time and time again.
Go right away and check it out for yourself as soon as you can...
It's really that important.
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Friday, October 12, 2007
Beyond Rocky Mountains And Country Roads: Remembering John Denver
I wasn't particularly fond of country music as a kid in the 80s, but in most times when I would drop by an uncle's house, he would either be:
1) Playing an LP with "Country road, take me home, to the place, I belong..."
2) Talk about John Denver.
3) Talk about Kenny Rogers.
It kind of bored me out since I rather subscribed to watching Loony toons and all its craziness. Wholesome country music didn't excite me, but no matter.
"When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things." – 1 Corinthians 13:11
Today marks exactly the 10th anniversary of the death of John Denver, the great country singer who left us in an air crash. Perhaps calling Mr. Denver a country singer is inadequate, for as I listen to him these days and as an adult, he need not deliberately have to sing with a typical mid-western twang. Beyond rocky mountains and country roads are the extraordinary songs that strike internally, at the heart of relationships, a deep love and humanitarian compassion.
Since you're reading this and if it's been a long time since you last listened to John, allow me to share with you...
1) Annie's Song
2) My Sweet Lady
3) I'm Sorry
A most interesting reason for me to write this post is to have you listen to this song, and its title says it all:
4) I Wish I Knew How It Would Feel To Be Free
Happy Listening!
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Labels: Annie's Song, Corinthians, John Denver, Kenny Rogers, My Sweet Lady
Tuesday, October 9, 2007
Have you ever wished you were a SOMEBODY?
I’ve never sent a message like this before and may never again, but I just have to tell you about something happening right now that I don’t want you to miss!
My friend, Thom McFadden, the “Coach to the Stars”, just launched his new book and success system called Acting FOR REAL™.
Why is this SO important?
Because for years Thom has taught some of Hollywood's most successsful actors and directors about how to be successful.
In fact, some people pay him $10,000 to learn his system.
Until now, he's kept his secret strategies to himself and his circle of high-profile clients.
But after seeing so many people buy self-help books that just don't work, he decided to release his proven techniques to the public.
Forget about all the self-help books gathering dust on your shelves. Forget about all the self-improvement tapes you listened to and all the seminars you attended.
Yes, they got you excited, but be honest-did they really help you make dramatic changes in your life? Probably not.
Now there’s a better way to live the life of your dreams.
You don't have to listen to my opinion though.
Here’s what others have said about Acting FOR REAL:
"Remarkable! Now for the first time The same strategies used by top-notch Hollywood stars are available to empower and enrich the characters we all play in everyday life.” – The New York Times Book Review
“If you want to clean up your act, pick up this book.” – Denis Hamill, columnist, New York Daily News and author of “Fork in The Road and Ten Spot”
If you’re frustrated with any part of your life, absolutely do not miss this.
Thom's giving away some awesome prizes to the first few people who get Acting FOR REAL. If a FREE vacation sounds nice to you, examine this now.
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Listen To T. Harv Eker.
T. Harv Eker is a speaker and author of the New York Times #1 best-selling book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. He is also well-known for his 3-day Millionaire Mind Intensive which YOU are invited into to discover the true riches and potential of what a new way of financial intelligence and thinking can achieve for YOU.
Find out how you can get 2 complimentary seats to Millionaire Mind Intensive right here! Remember my reference number 339071 should this be required for your MMI registration process. If you have always wanted to find a way to seek a larger self, this is your moment!
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Thursday, September 27, 2007
Leverage: The Power To Move Worlds by Daniel Turner & Marc Lindsay
R. Buckminster Fuller ("Bucky") has probably the best definition of leverage that I've ever heard, and he defines it as this: "Ever more, with ever less".
Leverage is all about taking things beyond your physical, mental, monetary, and time limits, and being able to expand those exponentially.
For the purpose of this principle, we're going to be discussing leverage as it is related to bringing about success, but modern-day society most relates the principle of leverage to Archimedes who said, "give me a lever long enough, and prop strong enough, and I can move the world".
There are 3 main aspects to leverage, the leverage of time, the leverage of money, and the leverage of applied knowledge.
1. The Leverage Of Time
We spoke about this in "The Principle Of Time Consciousness", being aware of time, and that when you reach level 4 you are literally at your limit.
The leverage of time can set you free.
Essentially you are leveraging your time by utilizing other peoples' time to accomplish what you need to do. By employing people to work with you, hiring outsourcing agents, or out-tasking the grunt work to data entry workers across the world.
2. The Leverage Of Money
Investment circles and educators call this OPM—Other Peoples' Money, and say that it is the best way to invest. This isn't ALWAYS true, and particularly when we talk about online, because of the minimal barriers to entry ($9 for a domain, $30 for hosting and the rest can be done by you), you may not need to employ the leverage of money.
3. The Leverage of Applied Knowledge
Can you imagine if you had to learn everything for yourself? As in you couldn't read books, talk to people about their experiences, but had to actually learn for yourself and experience everything yourself? How long would it take for you to figure out what needed to be done and how to do it properly?
The idea is ludicrous, but there are also methods for speeding up your acquisition of knowledge, things like speed and photo-reading, having mentors, utilizing your available wasted time to listen to CDs/MP3s etc.
Now, you'll notice that I put 'applied' in front of knowledge.
Knowledge by itself is wasteful, it is the application of that knowledge that helps you to move forward.
Sometimes to apply knowledge though, you'll need several pieces, so you may learn one thing, and it may take 6 months, 3 years or more to actually put that knowledge into application, and for all the pieces to fall into place.
A simple method for getting around this however, is that you learn about what you need to learn about, when you need to learn it. If you are having cashflow problems in your business, learn how to bring more customers on or get your existing customers to spend more, don't read and learn about how to find the best deals on eBay.
This last paragraph should be setting alarm bells. The Leverage of Applied Knowledge with Focus can have powerful effects. It means you are doing that which needs to be done, with the knowledge to get it done correctly the first time around.
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Labels: Applied Knowledge, Archimedes, Bucky, OPM, Other Peoples' Money, R. Buckminster Fuller
Monday, September 24, 2007
The Lost Art Of Pelmanism
I recently learned a new word and it's 'Pelmanism'. Not to sure if it's named after a person, but whoever he is, Joe Vitale seems to be very big fan of his. And this person is no longer in this world. Your first clue is this person apparently is one generation ahead of Napoleon Hill. Get the drift? He has written 12 volumes of long-lost information published in 1919 on the subjects of knowledge, senses, purpose, concentration, mental connection, imagination, originality, the pursuit of truth, personality and many more. If you are very much into self-development, we're sure you won't want to miss this one. Discover the Lost Art of Pelmanism.
Friday, September 21, 2007
Whatever it takes... by Daniel Turner & Marc Lindsay
Do you have what it takes to be successful? Would you do whatever it took to be successful?
I sincerely hope that you answered "no" to that question.
Why?
Because you need to do whatever it takes, but you need to do it with honesty, with integrity, and with compassion.
Otherwise, if you wanted to make money, go sell drugs, who cares right? This is what separates the people with ethics, and those without.
Someone who is willing to do whatever it takes without consideration of ethics or the effects that it has on other people, is in my opinion the lowest of low of the human race. If you are willing to tread on another human being, to get what you want, then it is my opinion that you need to rethink your perspectives on life.
So what exactly do I mean when I say "Whatever it takes"?
What I'm saying is that you do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, you don't wait, you don't delay, you don't make excuses, you take responsibility.
When opportunity arises you seize it with both hands and don't let go until you've driven it forward!
The best way to explain the principle, is actually to give you an analogy of a type of person.
When you picture in your mind someone from the Elite Special Forces, be it Navy Seals or S.A.S or whomever you choose, that attitude of 'I will make sure that my mission is successful no matter what' is what they embody, there is no quit, there is no fail, there is just do, and succeed.
The only additional to that analogy, is that you apply your ethics, morals, and honesty to it, you aren't in a war zone like they are, you are in life, you're life, and how you play it, dictates your end result.
I also need to give credit to someone here, because credit is definitely due, Brad Sugars was the guy that taught me this first, where he learned it from I don't know, but it is my belief, that it was from simple life, and business experience...the greatest teacher of all.
Go out there and do whatever it takes, with compassion, with honest, and with integrity.
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Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Effective Communication: The Pathway To Strong Relationships by Daniel Turner & Marc Lindsay
If I could sum up my views on communication, it would be this: "Communication is the result you get."
What this means, is that if someone has totally understood your point, and can explain back to you what you just said in their own words, you've communicated effectively.
I'm sure you're familiar with this kind of scenario...
You've sat down to have a conversation with your wife/husband, friend, colleague, boss...whoever, and no matter how hard you try, what you are saying is just totally misconstrued and misunderstood by them.
Or is it?
You see, when you look at communication as "the result you get", which is the essence of this principle, what this principle does, is give you ownership over the interactions with other people in your life.
It eliminates the need to walk away from someone and say "they don't understand me!" and transforms it to an element of power, in the shape of "they aren't understanding what I'm saying, how can I explain it in a way that makes sense to them".
Instantly this gives you back the power you would have normally lost.
Now, am I saying that this is easy? No, effective communication is one of the hardest principles to follow, and has to be constantly worked at.
What it all boils down to, is think about it from the other person's perspective, and constantly be asking yourself the question "how can I say this in a way that they will understand".
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Sunday, September 16, 2007
Frozen By Fear!
"The Little Engine That Could" was a story that inspired many of us as children. The story tells of a small train that was faced with a steep climb up a very large hill. Halfway up the hill the little engine started to feel as though it was an impossible task. Fear set in.
"Will I make it?" the train wondered. "What if I don't? What if I run out of steam before I make it? What if I'm not equipped with a strong enough engine to handle this?"
The fear grew inside as his speed slowed with the climb. Soon he crawled to a stop. "I can't make it," he thought.
He was gripped with fear, paralyzed by it. Then things got even worse. He was now slipping backwards. His fear was now his reality. The top of the hill was out of his reach and he would never make it. As he slid backwards he yelled out, "I don't want to fail!"
Then something inside him changed. In truth he really did want to be on the top of the hill, not forever stuck at the bottom to live in its shadow. Fear was replaced with determination, drive, and a desire to make it to the top. With all he had in him he focused on summoning the power he needed to stop the backward slide.
And he did it! He was now holding his ground on the hill. His excitement deepened his determination. Up the hill he began moving, ever so slowly, pulling the weight of the entire train behind him. He looked up toward the top of the hill and held clear in his mind the vision of making it. He became even more determined and that made him feel stronger. His confidence grew and he picked up more speed. The train didn't feel so hard to pull now. He felt great strength within himself that he hadn't known before; strength he had never needed before now. As he neared the top of the hill he felt unstoppable. He knew he was going to make it!
He did it! The little ol' train made it to the top of the hill and congratulated himself. It felt great to be at the top. Filled with joy, confidence and a passion for life he looked down the tracks eager to continue his journey. He saw another hill—bigger than the last! A big smile came over his face; for he truly understood there is no end to the hills! This filled him with a deep sense of peace and humility. He then further realized that the journey and the destination are one and the same.
He wondered how was it that at the halfway point he felt so overcome with the task and yet it was in him to make it. He was strong enough. Could it have been that as his fears grew, his thoughts were consumed with the vision of not making it? Failure almost became his reality. It was when he changed his focus—alerted his perspective—that he felt powerful. In fact, it seemed the more he believed in himself the stronger he felt, and the easier the climb became. His new focus became his new reality!
He admired just how powerful his thoughts are and he never took them for granted again. He became aware of his thoughts and he used them to go places he always wanted to go!
Remember: You are the conductor of your own train on the tracks of life and you are strong enough to go places you want to go. Don't let a little hill stop you—choose the reality you wish to create, not the one you're afraid might occur. Soon enough you'll be able to say just like the little engine, "I know I can!"
Heather Walter is an Inner Balance Coach, Motivational Speaker and Writer based in Whitby, Ontario. She can be reached at heatherwalter@rogers.com.
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Thursday, September 13, 2007
Your 3-Minute Solution To Cope Your Depression
I'm not a therapist (or professional of any kind). I personally got this information from peak performance coach Tony Robbins, and now I’m passing on to you. What you’ll learn here is absolutely breakthrough information.
No one consciously says, "I'd rather be depressed than happy." But what do depressed people do? We think of depression as a mental state, but it has a very clear, identifiable physiology.
Right now you’re feeling whatever you are feeling right now is related first how you are using your body. Now, I’ll give you a more specific example. If I were to tell you that there is a depressed person behind the door over here, I wonder if you could describe that person physically without seeing him. I bet you could do it, couldn’t you?
What’s his posture like? It's not hard to visualize a person who is depressed. Depressed people often walk around with their eyes down. (They're accessing in a kinesthetic mode and/or talking to themselves about all the things that make them feel depressed.) They drop their shoulders. They take weak, shallow breaths. They do all the things that put their body in a depressed physiology. Are they deciding to be depressed? They sure are. Depression is a result, and it requires very specific body images to create it.
How come you know these things without seeing him? Because you practiced this before haven’t you? We all have experienced it. Now if you do these to your body, you are gonna feel lousy, you are gonna feel depressed. Now if you change the way you use your body, your shoulders are back, you breathe if you use your voice different way, if you move your body with a different temple.
It’s hard to feel depressed in that way. In fact there’s a research studied at the University of California, Berkeley, they tried something different without drugs. They did something sound so stupid. Here’s what they did. They came up with a simple approach that they took people that are clinically depressed, that means they have reached high level of depression. It’s like they get a certification saying that they are clinically depressed. They are achievers at the depression level. That means they practice the pattern of "being depressed" on a regular basis. They had these ‘patients’ come of 4 weeks, stand in front of a mirror and do one silly thing. They ask them to grin from ear to ear and they had made them smile for no good reason for 20 minutes 7 days a week. Now when they are doing it, they grin so big that they created a wrinkle on their side of the eyes. You know those sets of lines that when you smile so big? Interestingly, they kick their shoulders back while they are doing it and breathe fully. They go, “Dump idea!” But what happen is not a single person was able to remain depressed. What most interesting is, at the end of the 20 days, many of them had no need for medications and that’s all they change. What they did is just changing their physiology, the way how they use their body to express their emotion. That’s how powerful it is.
If you stand up straight, if you throw your shoulders back, if you breathe deeply from your chest, if you look upward—if you put yourself in a resourceful physiology, if you put a big smile on your face and say to yourself, "I love my life so much. God, it’s a beautiful day!" Think about the people who love you and care about you. Would you be grateful to them? If you are grateful, you can’t be fearful and hence, you can't be depressed. Try it yourself. Stand up tall, throw your shoulders back, breathe deeply, look up, move your body. See if you can feel depressed in that posture. You'll find that it's almost impossible. Instead, your brain is getting a message from your physiology to be alert and vital and resourceful. And that's what it becomes.
See if you rise up and use your body in a totally different way, you’re gonna feel different. Emotions are created by motions. We have 80 muscles in our face. How many of them are you using? Consciously, are you doing anything to your body so you feel different? Or do you do the same thing over and over so you feel the same thing like when you are feeling depressed? That’s just a few patterns that your body is doing in a regularly basis that you don’t even think about it. And whenever you do it, you are gonna feel it.
In summary, the solution to cure your depression is, not drugs, but:
1. to change the way you move and use your body.
2. to be grateful of what you have and thank those people who love you out loud.
3. to smile.
Kacper Postawski is an innovative sleep science researcher and the creator of the Sleep Wiz, your surefire natural remedy to end insomnia forever and enjoy energizing sleep in as little as 3 days! He can show you how to fall asleep effortlessly, create more time, and an abundance of energy in your body by optimizing your sleep system! He dispels the “8-hour sleep myth”, tells you what most people never realize about sleep, and what the drug companies DONT WANT YOU to know.
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Monday, September 10, 2007
The Principle Of Time Consciousness by Daniel Turner & Marc Lindsay
I have often been called a time miser, someone that has such a high regard of time, I value it above almost all else.
This is very cliché, but it is also very true, that TIME is truly the only finite resource that we as human beings have.
Did you hear that? That was another 5 seconds passing, 5 seconds you'll never get back.
Does that mean that you only care about getting the job done in the shortest possible time? No absolutely not, you must enjoy the journey, enjoy the process, but it also means that you should question the work and activities that you do, who you spend time with, and what you choose to do.
There is actually in my opinion 4 levels of time, at least what I have discovered up until this point in my life journey.
When you are at level 1, you are merely existing, going through the motions, at some point your dreams died, and with them your drive to achieve them. Maybe they were crushed, maybe they were just thrown out as being "too hard" or "people like me can't do that", but the end result is that this is one of the saddest events in the world, and it takes a significant even to break someone out of this apathy.
Level 2 is when you are aware of time, but you are not time-conscious (sounds like a contradiction). It means that you 'know' that you need to be aware of time, but your actions dictate otherwise. You'll spend time in forums, surfing the web, and watching TV, basically wasting time doing activities that are not really going to help you.
Levels 1 and 2 are where the majority of the human race is at, either their dreams have been shattered, or they haven't figured it out, and by figured it out I mean embodied it, that their actions dictate their results.
Level 3 is where you are aware of time, and of being efficient, and are working towards working on purely efficient and effective activities. Those things that are going to be moving you towards your end result. You will probably spend minimal time doing activities that don't propel you forward, though you will feel you haven't yet reached your 'limit'.
Level 4 puts you into a challenging position. You have become aware of what I like to call true opportunity cost. Literally, if you spend time doing one activity, you lose the time to do the other activity, and you are forced to choose between the greater of 2 ideas or activities.
It's not just activities, but people too. This is a hard reality to face, and I hated facing it when I first came across it, but you literally cannot help everyone in the world. At this point, you'll start to question what you are doing, because you will be pushing your own boundaries on what you can accomplish, and if there is a Level 5, it isn't so much a new level, but application of both Level 4 time, and leverage.
This has been a pretty heavy lesson, and you may need to re-read it, but it's something you should apply. Look at every activity you do during the day (hint, keep a log or a journal), and ask yourself, is this worth my time?
Friday, September 7, 2007
The meaning of Discipline
The simplest way to explain Discipline, is "that which keeps you going, after the motivation to do the action, has disappeared".
Discipline is what keeps you moving, what keeps you pursuing your dream when all else seems to have failed and no matter how much you try, that 'spark' just doesn't seem to kick.
It's what keeps you moving forward following your goals and action steps to achieve your end result.
Discipline is probably one of the hardest things to not only establish in a human being, but more importantly to ingrain into the very fiber of their being.
Why you ask? Because discipline is not just a part of one aspect of your life, it is a part of all, from the smallest of tasks and choices, to the largest and greatest.
Do you eat some fruit? Or do you eat some chocolate? Do you call that client? Or do you clean your desk?
Everyone, and I mean everyone, has aspects of what they do that they absolutely hate, and not even hate a little bit, but sometimes hate with a passion, and will put off until the very last minute. Sometimes it's their tax or book keeping, it might be making sales calls or something as simple as answering emails.
But it is usually these things that are key to keeping your business/success on track, and without them you'll soon find yourself floundering.
It's the people that just 'press on' and 'do it anyway' that move towards what they are wanting to achieve.
Remember though, every choice or action you take, requires some form of discipline, do you take the easy road or the hard road? Do you do that which you want to do, or that which you need to do? Every act of discipline builds upon the next, so whenever you make the right choice, no matter how small, when it comes to making the next right one, it'll be easier.
"Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment." - Jim Rohn
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
The 3 Most Powerful Ways to Get Yourself to Achieve ANYTHING Despite Pressure, Deadlines and Procrastination.
How free and energized would you feel if you had the power to motivate yourself to do ANYTHING, stop procrastinating, and achieve all your goals in record time?
Have you ever had a concrete plan to succeed at something, but for some “inner” reason what you planned to do never got done? We all have plans and huge dreams when we’re young, but very few people ever get past the point of taking ACTION on those dreams? Is it because people are lazy? Or is there an inner science to achievement?
My mission is to deliver you cutting edge information to help you super-charge your life, and for today I’d like to deliver to you 3 of the most powerful and impacting ways to conquer self-sabotage and get you to where you want to be in your life at lightening speed. I have personally used these tools in my life and the results have been mind-blowing. Here we go!
What Is Success?
People have many different definitions for success and failure. I’d like to give you my own definition before we move on.
Success happens whenever you decide to do something and you DO IT. Or whenever you decide to NOT DO something and you DON’T do it.
It sounds simple, but 99% of people can’t even do just that! Sure, everyone talks a lot about doing things, but hardly many people actually take action on what their supposedly high priority goals and dreams are. I know I’ve been in the same place!
One of the most important concepts I’ve learned in my life is that 90% of Success is taking ACTION on the goal you have. 10% is the mechanics, knowledge, or resources you need to succeed. Whatever you want in your life, you have the power to acquire the knowledge, to get the mechanics or resources you need, it’s taking action on that goal that is the biggest obstacle on the road to success in most people.
If anyone can succeed, and all it takes is ACTION, why doesn’t everyone take action to achieve their goals everyday?
Power Method 1: Pain and Pleasure
If you learn nothing else this year but this concept, your whole life will change. The person who has popularized this concept and changed thousands of lives with it most is Anthony Robbins.
The human mind is consciously and subconsciously motivated by two basic forces:
1. The need to AVOID PAIN
2. The need to GAIN PLEASURE.
If you think about it, every single action you take in your life is driven by the need to avoid pain, and the need to gain pleasure. The need to avoid pain is always STRONGER than the need to gain pleasure.
For example: If you have $10,000 and you have two options:
Choice A: Go for a 4 day trip to Hawaii.
Choice B: Pay $10,000 to remove a tumor from your brain.
Allow me to give you a powerful example of how to instantly apply this into your life to start creating results TODAY. Here’s a personal example of how I used this concept to create the Sleep Wiz Revitalizing Program system.
I had been planning to finally write an e-book about my research in sleep for about a month, but I kept on putting it off, why? Frustrated with a lot of things in my life, I decided to give this Pain & Pleasure concept a Try. I drew a PAIN and PLEASURE graph like the one below of my current situation, and then drew one of the outcomes I wanted.
Pain 1. Writing the book would take too much time…I don’t have time. 2. It would be super stressful, I would have to stay up at night and do even more research on how to create and write this so it’s perfect. 3. What if I write it and no one will read or buy it? It will be a waste of time. | Pleasure 1. When the book is finished I could help a lot of people with the information and improve other’s lives. 2. When the book is finished, I’ll have extra money coming in. |
As you can see, my need to AVOID PAIN was pushing me in the direction not taking any action. It’s also known as “procrastination”. The only difference between people who procrastinate and people who succeed with taking action, is the associations of PAIN and PLEASURE they have with doing something. I look at my pain and pleasure sheet, and thought of how I could focus my associations to push me into taking action instantly.
Here was my new sheet.
Pain 1. If I don’t write the book I will feel like a total failure for the rest of my life and go on living a boring life. 2. If I don’t write the book I will never help anyone as no-one will read this powerful information. 3. If I don’t write this book I will go on working in under paid jobs and never be financially free for the rest of my life. 4. If I don’t write this book I will be just another mouth to feed in the world, and won’t contribute to society in any way shape or form. | Pleasure 1. When the book is finished I will contribute to other people’s lives and get e-mails from them everyday about how much of a difference the information has made in their lives. That will feel very rewarding. 2. When the book is finished, I can become dedicated to creating life-long relationships to the people that buy it, by sending them a lot more powerful information to help them transform their lives. 3. When the book is finished, I will be completely financially |
I created immense pain around NOT DOING the tasks, I clearly wrote out and visualized how this would look and feel. The pain of NOT WRITING the book was now greater than the one of writing it. My values of contributing to the world and creating something special were now at stake. To further hammer the nail in, I clearly described the immense pleasure visually, emotionally, and kinesthetically of how it will feel when the task is done. With all the arrows in my mind pulling me away from pain and into pleasure, I was on my way that very same minute.
You’re reading this article now as a result of that PAIN & PLEASURE sheet I wrote down! This concept is so powerful, I urge you to do it as soon as you’re done reading this article.
Take at least one action you’ve been putting off in your life, whether it is a goal to lose weight, to create more money, or improve a relationship. Take that action, create a pain and pleasure sheet like the one above and see how rapidly motivated you will be to achieve that goal.
Here’s another example of someone trying to lose weight.
Power Method 2: Chunking
The second reason why people don’t take action on what they want to achieve TOO BIG inside of their head. Often a simple goal like going to the gym to work out becomes a number of PAINFUL things:
1. I have to go get the keys to my car.
2. I have to put my work out clothes on, and iron them because they’re all wrinkly.
3. I gotta go to my car and drive there through traffic.
4. Once I get there they’ll make me sign up for a membership.
5. Once I am signed up they’ll give me a 2-hour tour of the place and try to upsell me even more membership options which I don’t want!
6. Then I gotta work out for an hour, and I’ll get all sweaty.
7. I have to drive home with all that sweat on me.
8. Once I’m home I’ll have to shower, and by then I’ll have no time to do anything else!
“Forget it! I’m watching TV! Going to the gym is too complicated and too painful”
Chunking, and the Rule of 3s
Our conscious mind can usually hold only a number of things to do at once. Whenever there is more things to do than the conscious mind can handle, we feel overwhelmed and stop everything completely. What I realized after a while is that nothing is really as big as we make it out to be. We just have a habit to make things bigger than they are.
The above gym example could be brought down to three simple steps:
1. Go to the gym
2. Work out
3. Feel great and energized!
Whenever you find yourself feeling blocked or procrastinating, think of the way you are chunking down the goal into steps? Are you thinking of ALL the things you have to do, and how PAINFUL they will be? If you are, chunk them down into 3 steps. As you focus on these steps, you’ll find you’ll feel much more balanced and relaxed about the goal!
Power Method 3: State Management
“I’m not in the mood today, I’ll do it tomorrow.”
“I really don’t FEEL like doing that right now.”
Have you ever heard someone say these things? Perhaps you say them to yourself on a regular basis? The bottom line is that if you wait around to feel in the right mood or emotional state to do something, it’s most likely never going to happen.
99% of people in the world have no control over how the feel. They either wake up happy, or they don’t. They have a “bad day” or a “good day.” To these kinds of people it seems that the way we feel is some kind of mystical enigmatic force that we have no control over.
Part of success is being able take ACTION despite FEAR, PAIN, and UNCOMFORT. Taking action even when you’re not in the friggen moooooooooooooooooood (*whinny voice*).
Instead of waiting for an emotional state to come to you, use state management methods to create the emotional state you need to achieve your goals.
Super-Charging Your Emotional State
Your emotions are dependant on 2 primary factors:
1) What you focus on
2) What you do with your body
1. Changing Your Focus
Example: Jill’s goal is to lose 50 lbs, after a week of working out 3 times per week and changing her eating habits, she steps on the scale and notices that she only lost 1 lb. Feeling like she isn’t moving towards her goal fast enough, she instantly begins to feel disappointed and discouraged about continuing her quest to lose weight.
“Don’t let the present moment determine your outcome!”
One of the biggest secrets of success I’ve learned over time is that the current moment has nothing to do with your outcome! Often we get caught up with a depressing situation, we focus on it to the point where the emotions get strong enough to stop us.
At this point, instead of focusing on what seems like a failure to Jill, she could change her focus to the actual OUTCOME she wants. Which is feeling great, sexy and attractive. Feeling free and healthy. As you change your focus in critical times that would usually stop you emotionally, you create incredible power to move despite discomfort!
2. Using Your Body to Create Energy!
In the Sleep Wiz Revitalizing Program system I write about using this method at specific times of your day to optimize your inner sleep system to lessen your sleep and create an abundance of energy in your life.
Changing your focus is just “positive thinking”, until you add this method into your state management arsenal.
The fastest and easiest way to create an emotional state shift in your mind, and to give your body the energy it needs to propel you to your goals, is to make a drastic change in what you’re doing with your body.
You’ve got to move fast, you’ve got to get your heart rate going, and you’ve got to make it impactful!
Example: Often times when I’m faced with several writing deadlines for books, articles and interviews, I spend a lot of time sitting at my desk thinking. Getting work done on the computer is great, but there’s only one challenge: My body isn’t doing anything!
It gets to the point where my emotional drive begins to drop. At this point, instead of stopping my work an taking “a break” like most people do, I run into the back-yard, and jump for 10 minutes on my trampoline while thinking of all the things I want for my life and the lives of the people I affect with my work! By the time I get back in front of my laptop, I am supercharged with energy, ideas, creativity, and emotional drive!
What ways can you think of to create more energy and a better emotional state at key points during your day?
Because your emotional state is so critically important to achieving your goals, and the overall quality of your life, I urge to start using this technique in your life. Changing what you’re doing with your body doesn’t have to be as drastic as jumping on a trampoline whenever you’re in a down state. It could be as simple as getting up and clapping your hands for a minute while visualizing your goal. It can be going outside for a breath of air or a short jog, a stretch, or even just putting on a smile.
When you combine all three of these methods: Leveraging your pain and pleasure associations, chunking down your processes, and managing your emotional state, you’ll find that you become unstoppable in your journey to success.
“Dreams and goals are only vapor until you take action on them.” – Mark Joyner, Internet Marketing Millionaire
Kacper Postawski is an innovative sleep science researcher and the creator of the Sleep Wiz, your surefire natural remedy to end insomnia forever and enjoy energizing sleep in as little as 3 days! He can show you how to fall asleep effortlessly, create more time, and an abundance of energy in your body by optimizing your sleep system! He dispels the “8-hour sleep myth”, tells you what most people never realize about sleep, and what the drug companies DONT WANT YOU to know.
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Saturday, September 1, 2007
Are you using the Curly Principle?
"Any time I have seen someone accomplishing something magnificent, they have been a monomaniac with a mission. A single-minded individual with a passion." - Peter Drucker
You may recall the movie "City Slickers" from a while back starring Billy Crystal and Jack Palance. In it, we observed the story of a man (Crystal) who because of a midlife crisis decides to go out with some buddies and rustle cattle for a week.
Curly (Palance), the trail boss to whom they report, really seems to have his head together, and Crystal's character keeps asking him what the secret is. Curly's only reply is to hold up his index finger and say, "One thing."
Finally in frustration, Crystal asks, "Well, what is that one thing?" To which Curly replies, "That's what YOU have to figure out...No one can do it for you."
This "Curly Principle" teaches us the same lesson that the renowned management consultant Peter Drucker has observed in highly successful people: Monomania.
In other words, a single-minded focus and passion for that "one thing". Jesus taught us in Luke 11:34, "When thine eye is single, thy whole body also is full of light."
What are you singularly focused on?
Frequently, I meet individuals who want to have their dreams and yet aren't willing to give up anything to achieve them. This is self-deception. Choosing to become great in any area means choosing to not be great in another area. There will always be a price to pay. There will always be a sacrifice.
You can only ride one horse really well at any one time. Yes, you may be able to ride two, but nowhere NEAR as well as you can ride one. Nowhere near as agile, responsive or quick. Understand the difference?
"The secret to success in life is making your vocation your vacation." - Mark Twain
Several years ago, I was in LA with some good friends attending an Elton John concert. I was asked what seems to be a frequent question among acquaintances, "What do you do for fun and recreation?"
This is always a difficult question for me to answer, because I know there's an unspoken expectation that I come up with a whole list of activities I'm involved in.
Bottom line...I am a monomaniac (and not in the clinical sense of the word either). My work is my passion as well as my "re-creation" (notice the true meaning of the word). When asked the question, "How is work?" I can honestly answer, "Work is play."
I absolutely love what I do, and if you can say that too, then that goes a long way towards creating Harmonic Wealth®. I can think of nothing more fulfilling and re-creating than to meditate, study, read, learn, write, create, help and coach others, talk with you and share insights.
Yes, I do hike, workout, ski from time to time, go to movies and I even played golf poorly once. But these are not the things that make life meaningful for me. Many see their work as a "means to an end" but for the monomaniac, their work is an end unto itself. Not just a job...a meaningful, passionate mission.
Your work is your passion and your love made manifest through action.
Is this the right approach for you? I'm not qualified to answer that question. What I am qualified to do is to check my own observations and experiences and agree with Drucker and Curly.
To accomplish anything of consequence, anything magnificent and great, you must be willing to literally trade your life for it. To be so passionately focused and committed that nothing will divert you. Nothing and no one can stop you.
My wish is that you find that "one thing" in your life: Your white-hot passion that brings you tremendous meaning and purpose.
To your continued wealth and happiness,
James Arthur Ray
President/CEO
James Ray International
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Tuesday, August 28, 2007
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Monday, August 27, 2007
Know Your End Result
Can you imagine what the world would be like if there were no dreams, no end results people worked for?
We would have no growth. Period. In fact, we'd have stagnation and regression.
Knowing your end result is all about having a vision, a destination that you have solidified in your mind, and are continually working towards.
Many of today's successes started out as visionaries, starting out with little or nothing, and creating an empire from scratch, this is what knowing your end result can do for you.
Now, your end result doesn't need to be grandiose, it can simply be that you want to be able to replace your income, and to be honest, if you've never built your own business, that is where you should start.
Replacing your income is where freedom starts, because it gives you the choice to start doing what you want with your time.
But you need to be very clear, and very careful at the same time, about how you picture yourself in that end result. Whenever you do this, you need to see this as though you've already done it, or already have it, and be 100% certain that it is exactly as you want.
It can be eerie how accurate that image becomes a reality.
To give you an example, when a sculptor starts with a slab of stone, they don't just start chipping away at bits and pieces here and there, or smashing pieces away in the hope that it ends up looking like 'something nice', they have a very specific image of what they are sculpting, and almost to the finest detail, the picture they have in their mind, will be recreated into life.
It sounds insane for a sculptor to start with no end in mind, but why is it no different to you or your life, or where you want to be? If you don't know what you are heading towards, then how do you know that you've got there? Would you leave your home today and just drive 'somewhere', of course not, you'd know exactly where you are going, and if you didn't, you'd use a map or ask directions.
Now, the way I do this is a little different, I view my life as one great orchestration that I design. So I don't just do a 5-year plan or 10-year plan, I have a life plan. What this means is, when my life is over (as morbid as it sounds, death is a reality that we all have to accept some day) here is exactly how I want it to look, so I can look back over my life and have zero regret.
That is one of my only fears, that one day I will regret my life, it is one of the forces that drives me.
Once I've designed my life plan, it's very simple to work back to my 40-year, 10-year, 5-year and 1-year goals, and then break it down further into action items related to monthly, weekly and daily activities.
The cold hard reality, is that we cannot do everything in this world in a single lifetime, so choosing what we want to do is of great importance, and replacing your income or getting your finances simply allows you to design your life how you want it to really be.
Sunday, August 26, 2007
How A Three-Letter Word Can Change Your Life Forever And Force You to Succeed!
Have you ever wondered why most people will never get what they want?
My friend, I’ve read and listened to more self help material in my life than I can remember, and if I were to be on my dying bed right now with only one thing to share with you from everything I’ve ever learned it would be this one concept: the power of “why”. With it you can move mountains in your life and accomplish anything you set your heart on.
Without it, even if I were to send you the most powerful information on the face of the planet on changing your life, it would be completely useless (unless you need a paper-weight).
The answer is simple: Most people will NEVER get what they want in their lives because they don’t know “WHY” they want it!
The most impacting concept that has changed my life has been the “WHY” concept. The world’s most popular peak performance and achievement coach Tony Robbins has popularized this concept to a huge extent in his audios, seminars and books. It’s been written about in hundreds of books for the last decade and has shaped thousands of people’s lives from stagnation, unhappiness and procrastination into blissful lives of power, joy, and accomplishment.
From the time I first grasped this concept about a year ago my life has been transformed at a rate I stopped keeping track of—which is why I want to share this concept with you today. I would be doing you a disservice if I didn’t tell you about this dirty little secret: Most people who set out to make a change or improvement in their lives never do so because they do not understand the power of “WHY”.
Do you remember a time in your life where you set a goal for yourself that you were extremely excited about? Perhaps you even got to the point of taking some action towards that goal? But for some reason your drive, ambition, and energy withered away only to leave you looking back at that goal weeks later feeling like a failure?
I can remember a lot of times like that in my own life. I’m sure you can too, because as human beings we all go through this natural process.
Thousands of people everyday make “decisions” on changing BIG parts of their lives. These decisions could be:
• Deciding to quit smoking.
• Setting a goal to get a better job.
• Starting a business.
• Deciding to get out of a bad relationship.
• Committing yourself to creating more health and energy in your life.
Yet most people’s decisions last only for a couple days or hours, leaving them right back where they started, feeling miserable after they’ve been seduced right back to the low quality of life they wanted to leave. When every commitment in your life turns into another unfulfilled “new year’s resolution”, you know you need a better strategy!
My friend, I submit to you that if you’ve ever found yourself in a situation in your life where you’ve decide to make a HUGE change for the better, but that change never occurred, once you grasp the concept I share with you today you will be UNSTOPPABLE.
I can guarantee you that all your major “successes” in life had this one thing in common: The Power of “WHY”.
There is a secret mechanism behind your own human motivation that you need to see if you haven’t already: Most people’s decisions have two sides to them.
When we achieve something in our lives that we’ve strived to get, and someone asks us “how” we did it we often explain ourselves by saying something like..."Well, I just REALLY wanted it and was DETERMINED to get it, so I did it."
But what happens inside you that makes you “REALLY” want something to the point that you’re “DETERMINED” to get it no matter what?
Whenever we make a decision, two elements are present:
1. The decision at hand. Example: “I’m going to lose 20 pounds this month.”
2. The reason WHY you want #1 and the emotional pressure of that “WHY”.
Here’s the secret: Whenever you make a decision, a commitment, or a goal, the single most important thing which determines whether you will SUCCEED or not is if you’ve created a BIG enough REASON for yourself to succeed. This is what I mean by the power of “WHY?”
Whenever you set out to succeed at something, first ask yourself: “WHY is this really important to me? WHY MUST I have it?”
Once you ask this question you absolutely MUST come up with a powerful enough reason or a series of reasons which will turn your soul on fire and give you the drive necessary for you to follow through with your decision until the end, and make it IMPOSSIBLE for you to sit around and procrastinate.
I guarantee you that if you currently have something you’ve wanted in your life for a long time but they’re still not there it’s because you haven’t taken the right action, or the right amount of consistent action in your life to get that. And the main reason you haven’t taken the action is because you haven’t given yourself a powerful enough REASON that drives you emotionally at full strength towards that goal!
Let’s quickly look at some examples of really poor decisions:
Example 1: When most people decide they want to lose weight or do something for their body, their decision is usually one sided without even being consciously aware of the “WHY”.
Decision: “I’m going to lose 40 lbs.”
Reason: “Because I want to look thin, lean and attractive.”
That reason is nice, but it’s simply not emotionally driving enough to push your limits to the point where you stay absolutely committed to your goal until you achieve the desired result in your life. This is why most people’s “new year’s resolutions” hardly ever get accomplished, because they are simple blatant decisions with little emotional value.
If you want to GUARANTEE your success you have to stack your reasons to a point of emotional overwhelm where there is NO ROOM for failure:
Decision: “I’m going to lose 40 lbs!”
Reasons:
• Because I deserve to have a body I am proud of.
• Because I deserve to be lively, vital, and HAPPY.
• I deserve to feel attractive and I’m SICK and TIRED of living my life like this, it’s my body and I will not stand for it being this way anymore.
• I’m sick and tired of being called names and stared at by other people
when I go out in public.
• I deserve to be lively, vital, and HAPPY. To feel attractive and sexy like I’m suppose to.
This sounds so simple but it’s extremely powerful. Most people don’t do it because they’re afraid of being honest with themselves.
Let’s look at another example:
Example 2:
Decision: “I’m going to create a business that will generate $20,000 in net income per month.”
Reason: “I need more money.”
To most people the idea of making more money is always very exciting in the beginning, but very few people ever do ANYTHING to improve their financial situation, because they’re comfortable at where they are. Even when they start a new business or any kind of promising venture, they give up too early or never even start fully because they haven’t harnessed the power of “WHY”.
Remember, if you truly want something you not only have to know WHAT you want, but WHY you want it. Do you think you would give up on your goal to create a financially lucrative business if you reminded yourself WHY you wanted it with reasons like these?...
Reasons:
• I’m absolutely sick and tired of living an average life and I will not stand for this bullshit anymore—I’m going to be financially free no matter what it takes!
• My family deserves the best and I hate to watch them struggle with the income they have now.
• My family deserves a bigger home to live like they’re supposed to.
• Because I will not idly stand by and watch my life and my dreams simply pass me by.
• I’m not helping ANYONE by being in this financial situation, and I absolutely loath this, this HAS to change.
Yes, most of the time when we make a decision to make a powerful change in our lives we start feeling an overwhelming desire and drive for that change, but most of the time it doesn’t last simply because we forget WHY we wanted what we set out to get in the first place!
The most incredible service you could do for yourself is to clearly define WHY you want something and keep reminding yourself of that every single day.
Without having a powerful enough “WHY” reason for doing something, chances are your motivation will fade before you accomplish what you set out to do.
My friend, I don’t know what unique situation in life you’re in, but I guarantee that when you follow the 3 steps below for ANY goal you want to achieve currently, or perhaps something you’re ALREDY on a mission to achieve, your results will skyrocket!
Step 1: Make a Decision
Decide on the result you want to achieve. Is it creating money? Making a change in your body? Making a change in your relationships?
What is the CRYSTAL CLEAR result you want to achieve? Be specific.
Step 2: Find Out WHY You Want It!
Ask yourself these questions:
“Why is it absolutely IMPERATIVE that I MUST have this in my life?
“What will my life look like if I don’t have this in my life?”
“Are there any other people around me that will be affected by this decision? How much do I care about them? How will they suffer if I don’t do this?”
“What is the most painful thing about not having this in my life?”
“What is the most incredible and inspiring thing about this decision?”
“What will my life look like when I’ve created this change?”
You MUST figure out WHY you want what you’ve decided to do. If you can’t create enough reasons that are truly empowering, and if don’t find that the reasons make you tingle inside with emotion and drive, then you most likely don’t REALLY want what you’ve set out to get, or you haven’t looked deep enough inside you for those reasons.
Step 3: Use the Power of “Why” Every Day
One way to do this is to write your powerful “WHY” reasons on a piece of paper and stick that piece of paper somewhere where you can see it every day.
Remind yourself of the REASONS you want what you’ve set out to get every single day. Spend at least 10 minutes a day feeling the powerful emotions you’ve written down as your “WHY” reasons. Visualize and feel how important it is for you to do this, and why you won’t settle for anything less.
“Human beings are capable of incredible things. If we have a big enough REASON to do something, we’ll go to the greatest lengths to get it.” - Tony Robbins
I hope you’ve found this information extremely helpful to you, as I have enjoyed sharing it with you. Remember, information is powerful, but only information put into action makes a difference!
As I’ve said before, most people won’t make a change in their lives until they tap into the proper mechanics of human motivation. Knowing this I seek to not only provide you with powerful INFORMATION, but the MOTIVATION to put it into action and make a change in your life.
Ask yourself: What does it mean to make a change? Will other people’s lives be affected when I make that change in my life? How will my life look when I’ve created that change in my life?
Only once you find the big enough “WHY” to make a change in your life, then the information you possess becomes truly powerful.
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Thursday, August 23, 2007
Where Ideas Come From by Matthew Furey
Many people often wonder where the so-called "creative" people get their ideas.
They're looking for answers that are profound. There aren't any.
Ideas are in the air at all times. You simply reach into the substance and pull one out by doing something that all young kids do in their imagination each and every day.
And that is—you "make it up".
Yes, you may "make up" your ideas based upon things you've already seen and heard—or felt. Yes, you may combine one thing with another thing until you have something unique, but you still "made it up".
And when you make things up, you do so without resistance. You simply imagine—then move.
The other day my kids were beating me with punches while I was lying on the couch. My seven and three-year kids were saying, 'Inside Kung Fu"—then chopping me.
A minute later it was "Errrh, muscles." And they're flexing and strutting around.
"Where are they getting this stuff?" I think.
Sure, they've been influenced by me—but I have never gone around our home saying "Inside Kung Fu" while throwing punches—nor have I ever flexed in front of my kids, grunted and said the word "muscles".
Yes, there are bits and pieces of these elements at play—but most certainly NOT in the manner my kids put them together. And as soon as the ideas "popped" into their creative little minds, they moved and began expressing what they were thinking.
Becoming successful in business is much the same way.
All my successes on the Internet as well as off the Internet were NOT a result of long-term planning, trying to get every detail right before doing anything.
They were a result of using my imagination to come up with an idea—then moving forward on the idea—and continuing to move forward on it until the idea gets completed.
And coming up with ideas isn't hard. They're all around us. Just look at little kids and you'll see what I mean.
Sure, you may think it's different with business.
But is it, really?
Monday, August 20, 2007
Generals make a difference.
Imagine that you are dictator of your own country. That's pretty good—you have your own army and you have 5 loyal generals. You also have 100,000 infantrymen (of course, the generals represent leaders and the infantrymen represent distributors in case you're not following this analogy). What happens next is that one night I sneak across enemy lines and attack your army. I use my pinkbelt in karate and go chop, chop, chop and I beat up all 100,000 of your infantrymen. The next morning you wake up and you have 5 generals left. All of your infantry went home to their mothers for sympathy.
Now, here's the important question: With only 5 generals left, could you rebuild your army? Of course you could. That's the importance of leaders. When things go bad and everyone abandons the ship, you can still rebuild your organization if you have loyal leaders. What if the opposite were to happen? What if I were to sneak across enemy lines and kidnap your 5 generals? What would happen then?
The next morning, you wake up and all you have are your 100,000 infantrymen with no leadership or direction. They start marching in circles, firing inward, stepping in latrines, getting lost - it's a disaster! So as you see, generals are everything.
Some networkers build leaders. Other networkers are just busy. That's the difference why some networkers can work for a few years and finally retire from their business. These networkers focus all their activity on building leaders. The other networkers? The ones who are just busy? Well, they're still busy. If you're not convinced that building leaders is important by now, well, you can save yourself some time by not reading any further.
Okay! Let's get some leaders! We need a step-by-step plan. And that's easy because I studied engineering. If you're not familiar with engineers, we need a step-by-step plan for everything. For instance, when we walk, we have a plan. We're thinking: "Left foot, then the right foot. Left foot, then the right foot, etc." So, back to our plan. We're going to create our master plan in 3 easy steps. By mastering each step, one at a time, we'll end up with an organization of leaders. Here are the steps to master:
Step #1: Define what a leader is.
Step #2: How to find leaders.
Step #3: What to teach leaders.
Step #1 is very important. Before we go looking for leaders, wouldn't it be a great idea to know what a leader looks like? It's a lot easier to find somebody if we know what he looks like. On a recent training session, I asked the group, "Does anybody have a good definition of, what is a leader?" The answers were:
* Someone who is willing to step up and help to encourage others.
* Someone who makes sure that he gets done what needs to be done.
* Somebody who is coachable.
* Somebody who is good with people—a good communicator.
* Someone with a vision.
* A leader is somebody who wants to learn and wants to succeed.
* A leader is someone who commits to taking the action that's required to make it to the top.
And that was the list. The rest of the callers were silent. I don't think they ever thought about this question. I can't imagine how they looked for leaders if they never even knew what a leader looked like. All of the above definitions are nice, but we need something more useful. In a future article, I will share with you my 3 definitions of a leader. Once we know exactly what we are looking for, it gets easy.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Running Your Own Race by Jill Koenig
Think back to a time in your life when you tried something new.
When I was a teenager I volunteered to work the water station at a 10k race. It was called the "Heaven Can Wait" 10k run and ironically, it was sponsored by the local cemetery.
My job was to pass out water to the runners. I remember being so excited to see all the different kinds of people who passed by and grabbed a cup of water. Some ran past, some walked past and a few wheeled past. I saw so many types of people doing it, I thought maybe I can do it too!
So the next year I signed up for the race and gave it a shot. Back then I didn't do much to prepare except jog around my neighborhood. I never tracked how far I jogged, or timed myself, I just ran around. I had no time goals for the race, no specialized training, no game plan, nothing. Needless to say that I prepare differently when I run races today, but back then my only goal was to finish.
On the day of the race, it was incredibly hot and humid. I remember struggling at about the 5th mile, thinking, "I must be crazy, why did I do this? What was I thinking? And at one point, I said, "I am never doing this again!"
Have you ever felt that way about something? You eagerly undertake a goal and in the midst of it comes a moment of struggle, and you realize it is much harder than you imagined it would be?
That first 10k race was quite an experience. I jogged, I walked, I jogged and I walked. At times, I didn't know if I could finish. Then came a defining moment.
At one point near the end, a 70 year old man ran past me, very very fast, and I felt embarrassed that I was 50+ years younger than he and I couldn't even keep up with him. I felt defeated for a second. But then I realized something. He was running his race and I was running mine.
He had different capacities, experience, training and goals for himself. I had mine. Remember my goal was merely to finish.
How often in life do we compare ourselves to others and feel disappointed in ourselves when we really shouldn't? After a minute, it hit me that this was a lesson I could draw from. I learned something about myself in that moment. I turned my embarrassment into inspiration.
I decided that I would not give up on running races, in fact, I would run even more races and I would learn how to train and prepare properly and one day I would be one of those 70 year old who was still running. As I crossed the finish line, I was proud of my accomplishment.
I am so glad I didn't give up on running. Today it is an incredible source of joy in my life. I have run several races since then, 5ks, 10ks and I run purely for fun. I have studied running books, made friendships with other runners and I can report that I love it now more than ever.
In life we all have those moments where we compare ourselves to others. It's only natural. Don't allow those moments to dis-empower you. Turn them into motivation and let them inspire you. Use them to show you what is possible. Every struggle is rich with opportunity. You define your own race when you define your own goals.
With the proper preparation, coaching and conditioning, you can improve your results to achieve anything you want in life.
The impact of fitness and nutrition on my life has been remarkable. I can do things now that I could not even do in my 20's all because of coaching, proper nutrition and conditioning.
You decide your race and you decide your own pace. Rarely in life will your destiny be determined by one little race.
"Success is a peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do the best of which you are capable." – Coach John Wooden
Life is a series of races. There are lessons in every race. There are life lessons to be learned every single day. If you don't win the race, but you get the lesson, and grow, you are truly a success.
Live Your Dreams,
Jill Koenig
Jill Koenig one of America's Top Goal Strategist's. A bestselling Author, Coach and Motivational Speaker, she is an expert on the subjects of Goal Setting, Time Management and Business Success. Her Goal in life is to help you unleash your untapped potential. Get your free Goal Setting CD at GoalGuru.com.
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Sunday, August 12, 2007
Reason, Season and Lifetime
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need
you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part
or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met,
our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered
and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON,
it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
those things you must build upon
in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
love the person/people (anyway);
and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Friday, August 10, 2007
Our Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness
That most frightens us.
We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small
Does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking
So that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine,
As children do.
We were born to make manifest
The glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us;
It's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
Monday, August 6, 2007
Natural Highs
Here are some things you can do to spice up your life!
1. Being in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No queues at the supermarket.
5. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
6. Hearing your favourite song on the radio.
7. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
8. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
9. Chocolate milkshake... (or vanilla or strawberry!)
10. A bubble bath.
11. Giggling.
12. A good conversation.
13. Finding a £20 note in your coat from last winter.
14. Running through sprinklers.
15. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
16. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
17. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
18. Waking up and realising you still have a few hours left to sleep.
19. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
20. Having someone play with your hair.
21. Sweet dreams.
22. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
23. Holding hands with someone you care about.
24. Running into an old friend and realising that some things (good or bad) never change.
25. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much-desired present from you.
26. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
27. Knowing that somebody misses you.
28. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
29. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.
30. Pass this on to someone knowing this will make them smile!
Saturday, August 4, 2007
I Promise Myself... by Christian D. Larson
To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature I meet.
To give so much time to improving myself that I have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side, so long as I am true to the best that is in me.
Wednesday, August 1, 2007
The 6-Step Process For Developing Discipline In Your Life by Gerry Robert
Step 1: Identify one habit or area you would like to become more disciplined in.
The first step is to identify one specific behavior you would like to change. It should be written in behavior style. It should describe something you now do that you would like to stop doing or something you now don't do consistently and would like to do regularly.
You can use this step to describe the outcome you would like to accomplish. You must however, confine each worksheet to one specific issue or behavior. Attempting to do too much may be discouraging. Each worksheet will take you through this 6-step process. It only applies to one issue per worksheet.
Step 2: Find role models.
Ask yourself, "Who is doing it right?" By identifying one or more people who have discipline in this area you will see that if others can do it so can you. The people you list in this section need not be personal acquaintances of yours. You may not know them personally at all. They may be alive or dead. The point here is to cause you to think about specific people whom you believe had control in this area. People you will emulate.
Step 3: List the benefits of becoming self-disciplined in this area.
Now ask yourself, "What's in it for me?" You want to consider why you want to develop in this area. By listing the rewards you will be willing to work harder. You need to feel, smell, taste, see and touch exactly what it will be like once you are strong in this area.
Step 4: Consider the danger zones.
You now need to consider where you might fall. You need to give some thought to the danger zones. You know that if you are going to become more disciplined you will be tempted to fall off the wagon, to be led astray, to procrastinate. If you have been attempting to become more self-disciplined for some time, you know that for you there is a pattern of failure to comply. What happens for you? You start off strongly, then before you know it, you are doing the very things you said you wouldn't or you stopped doing the things you said you would and know you should.
Step 5: Use Advanced Decision-Making.
You cannot win in life if you are controlled by whimsical or situational decision-making. If you are to succeed in life, you will need to consider in advance, how you will live your life.
In this step you will need to give some thought to what specific actions you will need to take to accomplish the goal listed in Step 1. For example, if you wanted to become more disciplined in the area of exercise, one decision made in advance could be a decision to exercise every morning upon waking for 45 minutes.
Step 6: Enroll a support team.
This step is by far one of the most crucial. If you don't do this step, you are cheating yourself out of the real power behind this system. It is vital for you to finally becoming the strong and self-disciplined person you know you can and should be. Resist the temptation to avoid this step because it may be different from what you are used to or even comfortable doing. It will literally change your life.
What this will do is force you to do what you said you would and know you should. Find someone to call you at least once a week. Allow yourself to become accountable to this person. This has literally transformed my life and that of my students worldwide.
Gerry Robert is a bestselling author of "The Millionaire Mindset" and a seminar speaker.
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