Cling FREE!

How often are you angry or frustrated or disappointed by someone’s actions because they aren’t what you want or expect? How often do you operate more from your own agenda rather than what is needed or important for the other person? Worse yet, how often do you get what you want only to discover it wasn’t the best of all possibilities?

Whether it’s the actions we expect our colleagues to take, the recognition we think we deserve, or the careers we want our children to choose, we can save a tremendous amount of energy when we accept that people will not always act as expected or in ways that suit us. This doesn’t mean losing control; it means acknowledging that in most cases we’re not in control and don’t need to be for things to turn out okay.

It’s funny but this seems to describe how I’ve lived life 99% of the time. Sometimes I mistook it for allowing others to walk over me, but I recognize that it truly is a matter of not allowing it to bother me. I simply do not care (in the non-attached sense).

Accept the unpredictable nature of life. Let go of expectations and view the world around you from a new and more spontaneous perspective. Be more flexible and ready to adapt and respond to whatever may come your way with more intelligence, more creativity and more balance. Expect only the unexpected!

Begin With The End In Mind.

"All things are created twice. There is a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation of all things. You have to make sure that the blueprint, the first creation is really what you want, that you've thought everything through. Then you put it into bricks and mortar. Each day you go to the construction shed and pull out the blueprint to get marching orders for the day. You begin with the end in mind." – Stephen Covey

Advice For Life

* Take a 10-30 minute walk every day. And while you walk, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.

* Live with the 3 E's: Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

* Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.

* Dream more while you are awake.

* Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat fewer foods that are manufactured in plants.

* Try to make at least 3 people smile each day.

* Clear your clutter from your house, your car, your desk, and let new and flowing energy in to your life.

* Don't waste your precious energy on gossip, issues of the past, negative thoughts, or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.

* Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

* Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

* Life is to o short to waste time hating anyone.

* Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

* You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

* Make peace with your past so it won't mess up the present.

* Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their Journey is all about.

* Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, and wear the fancy lingerie and pajamas. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

* No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

* Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

* What other people think of you is none of your business.

* Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

* However good or bad a situation is; it will change.

* Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

* Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful, or joyful.

* Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

* The best is yet to come.

* No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

* Do the right thing.

* Call your mother and father often.

* Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.

* Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not Disney World and you certainly don't want a fast pass.

Energy is the only currency. If you can't turn your energy into cash, it's not worth a plug nickel.

Energy is of prime importance and the driving force of all success and results. In The Science Of Success Learning System, we explore the understanding that everything is comprised of energy. Therefore, the results you do or do not have in your life today are directly correlated to the level of energy you personally can accumulate and maintain.

How frequently have you known a person who has had some amount of success in their life, possibly a good month or even a strong year, only to find that results slip away and cannot be retained? In most cases, this situation is not understood by the individual involved for it seems as if they're doing the same things they did when they achieved the original results... and yet they are getting a very different outcome.

The answer lies at the energetic level...

Let's agree up front that when I speak of energy, I'm not speaking of hyped-up activity. In fact, while there is a time and a place for colossal action, often the insightful will realize the answer lies in the direct opposite.

We've been taught since antiquity that there are two forces at play in our Universe: the active and the receptive, the dynamic and the magnetic, the yang and the yin, the traditional male and female. Western society has been historically action oriented (yang), while Eastern cultures have tended to lean more towards the yin.

As the East becomes more westernized in its activity, it also is experiencing the same difficulties. Energy is maintained through a harmony of yin and yang. Activity is an expenditure of energy and, if overdone, will deplete your reserves. While too much of either is counterproductive, being out of harmony tends to be epidemic in our world.

Intellect is yang...Increasing Spirit is yin.

You may have heard me say before that if you want to increase your currency, you must do three things: collect, condense and escalate your energy. To accomplish this, you must be a master of the delicate harmony between activity and introspection/reflection.

Obviously this is not a popular mentality in our currently male-dominated, active world...

And that's why our entire planet is poised on the brink of a major adjustment.

The true student cuts a heroic trail that the mass population does not understand...Mass mentality is caught up in their "doing," while the student puts her primary focus on "being."

If you can agree that energy is what determines results, then it stands to reason that the more energy you can muster and maintain, the greater your results. Furthermore, energy is just a variation spirit.

Does this mean that the wealthy are all spiritual? Not necessarily. Living in a physical world, the ego (intellectual, yang mind) can power itself to physical results without a full understanding of spiritual cause.

Therefore, choose your teachers and mentors wisely. While someone may have the ego power to collect a certain amount of toys and trinkets on the physical plane, they often don't have a clue regarding the Infinite. Some may be able to tell you how to accumulate a million dollars, yet this by no means qualifies them to teach you how to be truly wealthy.

Likewise, it does stand to reason that the poor are probably not spiritual (filled with energy), even though in many cases, they may claim to be "religious".

The person who said, "Money is the root of all evil," probably didn't have any!

These individuals have totally forgotten their birthright and who they truly are...Abundance (if you missed my message from a few months ago, It Is a Sin to Be Poor, you can check it out on my blog archives. I dive in deep in that message).

Your speed of oscillation will determine the results and the surroundings you attract to your life.

No energy, no cash, no results.

To the degree that you increase your personal velocity through the constant harmony of yang (activity) and yin (inactivity/receptivity), you'll find your environment and your world will change.

Let your intuition be your guide:

If you passionately feel that something is right to do, do it passionately. If you are ambivalent or uncertain...wait. Take time each day to be alone and journey inside (yin).

Limit, or even better, turn off "the plug-in drug" (a.k.a. the TV). This income- and energy-reducer is transmitting a constant stream of electrons right into your brain that puts you in a trance state and dulls mind and your senses.

Avoid the murder, mayhem and sensationalism spouting from the media. Avoid the emotional propaganda designed to keep you in a constant state of fear and disempowerment. It will dull the senses, limit creativity and suggest that we're totally out of control and unable to do anything about it.

I'm looking for a few misfits, mavericks and outsiders (according to mechanical-mentality) who are willing to cut their own trail on the Journey of Power. While this seems intense and serious, remember it's a game: it's a game that's seriously playful and playfully serious.

Be courageous enough to walk the Path of Power. Be courageous enough to take back your power. The first step is to step back.

Success comes and goes, but significance echoes across eternity.


To your continued wealth and happiness,



James Arthur Ray
President/CEO
James Ray International

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7 Habits Of Highly Effective Wildlife

Beyond the Daily Grind
The Paula G Company(tm) Newsletter
Volume 3, Issue 9
September 2006

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"Even if you live to be 100, it's really a very short time.
So why not spend it undergoing this process of evolution,
of opening your mind and heart, connecting with your true nature,
rather than getting better and better at fixing, grasping, freezing, closing down?"

Pema Chodron

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7 Habits Of Highly Effective Wildlife

While Stephen Covey may have cornered the market with his breakthrough tome "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", after my recent trip to the Canadian Rockies I believe the animal kingdom can offer us even more wisdom. Forget the theory that just because humans have opposing thumbs that they sit at the top of the pyramid of wisdom. One only needs to look as far as the state of affairs of wildlife management, environmental issues, and the pace of life in general to know that while we may be smart and innovative, sometimes we're missing the back to basic mentality that can truly help us thrive and enjoy our lives while we do it.

When I wasn't spending time obsessing about the fact that the bear population was out in full force because it was prime berry season in the Banff and Jasper areas, I really tuned into the amazing wildlife we were seeing. What did these magnificent creatures have to teach us? Well, this is what I found.

1) Follow Nature's Rhythm. There is an ebb and flow to nature's rhythm that is universal. In the harsh winters activity slows down. Bears hibernate, mountain goats head to higher elevations, and fish reduce activity as they feed beneath the frozen water. If they chose to do it any differently they simply wouldn't survive.

The lesson here is that we each have our own personal rhythm that is optimal for us and we need to tune it to the natural world around us. We've become so far removed from the natural flow of things by spending our days cooped up in cubicles, living in artificial environments, and moving at some prefabricated societal warp speed that we can sometimes get out of synch.

While I'm not suggesting that we all need to move to the wilderness and live off the land, I do believe slowing down to the speed of life each day so we can recognize and flow with our own body's rhythms and that of the natural world around us is key to our own personal effectiveness and fulfillment.

2) Trust Your Instincts. Animals live and die by their instincts. They don't sit around and analyze charts, graphs, and white papers before acting. While they do assess a situation, they don't go into analysis paralysis. If an animal gets startled, it'll instantly determine whether to fight or flee. If their predators are nearby, they camouflage themselves best they can and stay on high alert.

Have you ever made a decision where your instincts told you one thing but you thought about it and then it turned out badly? You probably said to yourself, "I should've trusted my instincts!" We all have the ability to tap into our instincts which allows us to get beneath the chatter of the mind. When we do that, we tend to be more aligned with our higher good and make better choices. So, even if you're faced with choices that require some analysis, remember to tap into your instincts to ensure you make the best choices possible each day.

Animals know not to waste their energy and time picking fights with non-predators. They pick their battles and only attack if they feel threatened. Even then, if possible they will first flee a threat rather than fight. While there are certainly predators out there that need to hunt and kill for food they are methodical about it and clearly in search of food and not simply trying to liven things up in the animal kingdom. There is also the delicate balance of prey and predator that keeps the circle of life flowing as each animal in it has a role to play. The animal kingdom lives in harmony based on a higher plan.

3) Know Your Predators/Friends. How do you interact with other members of your species (other humans)? Do you assume the best in others or do you attack at first sight? Do you live your life in service to others helping them to be their best or do you live from a mentality of scarcity and treat everyone as a potential predator even keeping those closest to you at arms length because you fear your own vulnerability?

4) Honor Your Uniqueness. You will not find the fish in the trees nor will you find elk swimming laps at the local lake. Why? Because the animal kingdom has perfected the concept of knowing and playing to their strengths. You don't see any animal annual performance appraisals going on where the animal in charge focuses on the groups' weaknesses and then asks the fish to focus on improving their running skills while pleading with the birds to take a self-improvement class on swimming. If they did, they wouldn't survive. Instead the mother animals teach their young how to further strengthen their natural abilities so they can ensure survival of the species.

If this is nature's order, why then do humans skip this lesson? I'll be the first to promote self-growth and stretching yourself in areas you never thought you could. However, so many of us spend our lives spinning our wheels and focusing on our weaknesses that we never truly cultivate our unique talents. What if we instead played to our strengths and passions so we could thrive?

5) Focus and Be in the Moment. Animals don't multi-task. If you've ever watched a bird building her nest or even a house cat lounging around, they are 100% focused on what they are doing (or in the case of my cats, not doing anything) and totally in the moment. They aren't worried about what will happen later, tomorrow, or even in ten minutes. They aren't hunting for food and building a nest while checking e-mail.

There isn't a successful business or life fulfillment expert that would disagree with me that focus and being in the moment are keys to success. Why, then do we spend so little time fully engaged in what we are doing at any given moment? If you've ever lost yourself in a hobby and found yourself energized and totally immersed in what you were doing, you know the feeling I am talking about. How can you get more of that in your life every day both on and off the job?

6) Clearly Define Your Goals. You might think, "what do you mean animals have goals?" Well, they might not have a business plan and a pie chart, but they are clearly goal oriented. For example, a mother bird on a timeline to build a nest before she can lay eggs; or, a bear needing to eat a certain amount of food in order to survive the winter hibernation. They are clear on what they need and move wholeheartedly toward their goal.

If you don't know what you really want, how will you know when you get it? That is the essence of a clearly defined goal - being clear on what you need and want. After that, it is all about inspired action over a period of time and not spreading yourself too thin.

7) Use Only What You Need/Sustainable Living. The animal kingdom does not live in the lap of excess, nor do they waste any resources given to them. When a predator bags its prey it feeds on the whole of the carcass. If there is any left, other animals enjoy the bounty. The carnivores aren't out there trying to kill as many prey as possible, only what they need. Instinctually it knows that being wasteful could impact its likelihood of survival.

While I am all for living life and enjoying some truly guilty pleasures, I also believe how we handle the both the things that are given to us as well as the world around us directly impacts what is possible for us. For instance, if we mismanage and disrespect the money we already have, it is pretty likely that we're not going to attract money abundantly because we're sending the message that we can't handle it. Or, if we do attract it (like many lottery winners), it'll slip through our hands so fast that we'll be back where we started. The same holds true for our physical surroundings, the environment, and the relationships we have with others. Thriving over the long haul means living sustain ably day to day.

The next time you find yourself at a loss for answers when it comes to your life, pause for a few minutes and be willing to look to nature for a clue. The answers are all around us.

You Can Live Your Dreams!

The beginning of your success lies in your imagination. Visualize all the things you want in your life, then make your mental blueprint and begin to build.

You can make your dreams work and produce for you. You can make every thought, every fact, that comes into your mind pay you a dividend.

Your imagination will show you how to turn your possibilities into reality. The will to succeed springs from the knowledge that you can succeed.

Think of things not as they are, but as they might be. Don't merely dream, CREATE. You owe it to yourself to live your dreams.

© 2006 by Max Steingart

A Personal Letter From Marshall Sylver

Dear Friend,

Once upon a time, two people were on the same path through the terrible black forest. One person had no idea where the path was going and was just hoping it ended up some place he wanted to go. The other person knew for certain that this path led to the castle of outrageous fortune, satisfying relationships, and phenomenal. emotional and physical health.

Both encountered many challenges, hardships, real and imagined demons along the way. Even though they both were on the same path they ended up in vastly different places. The one that didn't know where the path was going got frustrated, angry, and many times had doubts about whether he was on the right path. Because he had so many doubts he fought his battles with little enthusiasm or joy. Every setback seemed more severe, every challenge made him lose more belief in himself and what was possible.

The other person had a friend who had already been down the path and lived in the castle. The friend had told him that even though the path was filled with challenges it was worth the journey because the rewards were so great. The friend also gave him insights to learn from the journey and strategies to deal with the challenges as they arose. His friend also taught him how to enjoy the castle when he arrived so that he could live happily ever after.

The first person finally gave up and quit moving on the path. He became afraid of what might lie up ahead. He built a little hut to protect himself as best as possible from the beasts of the forest. After a time he began to believe that it was his destiny to stay in the forest and very soon he lost all ambitions other than those needed to merely survive. He always wondered what would have happened if he had gone just a little further down the path. He wondered if he would have found what he was searching for.

The second person kept meeting the challenges head-on. Each victory made him stronger. Each step on the path excited him more because he knew he was one step closer to his castle. Sure enough, the day arrived when the challenges became simple and he knew no matter what happened he could handle it. He reached the castle, he married the princess, he possessed all the gold, and he lived happily ever after.

Don't you wish you had a friend who could tell you what was at the end of the path? Wouldn't it also be more fun if you knew how to deal with the challenges that came up no matter how large they appeared to be? You do and it will be. Since I was and am just like you I am committed to helping you get more. I started my own journey down the path without the knowledge that there is indeed a castle. I had to learn the hard way what to do when the real and imagined demons arose. Since I have already been down the path and took special notes of the lessons I learned, I will now help you make your journey easier and much more fun.

Even though I know the path leads to a better place I cannot carry you, I can only teach and inspire you. You must take the first step. It is possible to have it all. You are in this very moment, by reading these words, taking the first step. It is with great joy and honor that I share with you these lessons, tools, and insights that will make your journey financially abundant, passionately satisfying, powerfully useful, and spiritually enlightening. The first steps on any path can be the toughest. When you start to experience your victories it will get easier and easier. I am certain that this book will impact your life positively and forever. Like a rocketship that changes its launch angle ever so slightly, you will now end up at a totally different destination.

Since thoughts are things, even just reading this book for fun will program you for success on your path. The language patterns, and the way that this book is formulated, will have massive impact on you forever. Thank you for letting me be the man who helped you get everything that you deserve.

Respectfully powerful,
Marshall Sylver

The Perfect Relationship

This lady just gave an 8-min workshop of her life right from her car and out of the blue. Is there such a thing as the "perfect relationship"? And here she is giving her best answer to the "cutest guy" she ever knew...just as it is for the rest of us. Enjoy!